Examining starseeds - the belief that some people have alien souls.
This essay was written by CMa Overdensity. Originally @ age-of-taurus.neocities.com in 2023. Rewriting started on June 29th, 2025, and published @ cmaoverdensity.neocities.org on July 14th, 2025. Last edited July 15th, 2025.
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Former Harvard psychiatrist and practicing psychonaut Timothy Leary, imprisoned for the first time, wrote in his 1973 book Terra II: A Way Out that he recorded extraterrestrial “transmissions”. Along with those transmissions, he speculated on panspermia - the belief that life on Earth was seeded by an outside force - and the cosmic role of the then-passing comet Kohoutek. The “starseed” Kohoutek was a symbol of “new light, new life, [and a] bright reminder of our extraterrestrial origin and future.”1
Leary’s Aquarian optimism didn’t codify what we Earthlings call starseeds, but Brad Steiger, UFO and New Age author, connected his writings with the phenomena of human-incarnated aliens in his 1976 book Gods of Aquarius.2 Francie Steiger, Brad Steiger’s wife, herself claimed to be one of these reincarnates.3 Steiger described “exceedingly normal” humans that believed they were products of “alien-earthling genetic manipulation” and that their ancestors came from “another world, another dimension, another level of intelligence”.4 These “star seed[s]”, or Star People, were attractive (physically and metaphysically); hypersensitive (sensorily and emotionally); and had continual contact with “angels”, “elves”, or “fairies” since childhood.5
One Star Person reported being told by an angel that her feeling of not belonging was because she was from a planet similar to Venus - a Venus possibly in a different dimension or vibration (magical state) than our own. She explained that souls gather on Earth willfully to gather experiences to elevate them back to where they originated from.3 Another said she stayed on Earth “as a matter of destiny” along with “thousands” others from other planets. Some of “[her] people” stay only long enough to complete a mission, while others make the “courageous decision” to stay for the rest of their lives.6 She talked of her Venusian origins as more literal, having lived on Venus while Earth was being colonised. However, the Venusians abandoned Earth due to it being “dangerous” - it only has one moon, while most planets have two to “balance each other’s influence”. Due to this malefic influence extending to the body and the undertaking that making an artificial moon would be, the Venusians abandoned Earth, and were content to watch Earth from afar.7
Brad Steiger, along with Francie, continued their research in their 1986 book The Star People, a book solely about the starseed phenomenon and the experiences of starseeds.
In the two years since this essay’s original publication, I have managed to find a copy of The Star People and have read it in full. Below are starseed traits listed both in Gods of Aquarius and Star People. I have made some modifications for readability; a copy of the original 1986 questionnaire is in Appendix 1.
From “hundreds” of respondents, the Steigers considered 36% of them to be truly starseeds, 47% were Star Helpers (evolved humans whose home became the stars through that evolution), and the remaining 17% to be fascinated observers.5 The criteria for what distinguished starseeds from Star Helpers was not disclosed. If I had to guess, the separation comes from how many questionnaire answers an individual had that were the same as the majority.
Starseeds as a concept were a smash hit in metaphysical spaces, the road paved prior by the indigo children of the 1960s. Today, you can find many books and websites about determining your starseed traits. Below I have listed out commonly agreed on starseed traits from a set of six websites, as well as underlining Steiger’s original questionnaire questions if they appeared. Traits with three or more websites agreeing on it are italicised, while traits with five or more are bolded.
While the Steigers only described a preference for Venus as the home of starseeds, the starseeds themselves mentioned that many other planets could be chosen as astral homes.1 Modern starseeds, however, aren’t restricted to just the solar system, but may find their homes in galaxies far far away. Below is a list of common starseed homes and their traits.
I analysed nine sources selected mostly through Google Search (exception being from Biblioteca Pleyades which I was already familiar with) by comparing their listed starseed “donor” species and the traits ascribed to them. I originally started with eleven sources, but rejected two due to suspecting one to be AI-generated, and another that directly copied another. Each source’s traits were manually copied over to a Google Sheet spreadsheet (Raw Data) and cleaned to merge similar traits.
Some traits, called “common traits” on the sheet, seemed to come up often across all donor species. I tracked these in three pages (Group, Frequency, Citation Amount). On Group and Frequency, I counted the number of filled cells both across (by species) and down (by trait) to get a total of how many common traits each species had, and how many times each trait appeared across all species. I included both averages and standard deviations for donor species as a whole, and will be considering anything above the average plus one standard deviation (21) to be above average in common traits (essentially measuring how non-unique a species is). On Citation Amount, I calculated the average number of citations referring to every trait as well as the standard deviation. Traits lacking in deviation or no citation amounts over two were removed. This left 42 out of 69 tracked traits. Citation amounts that are equal to or above the value for the average plus one standard deviation are highlighted in green and are considered significant.
To compare sources to each other, I used ChatGPT to generate Python scripts that tallied what systems agreed with each other, how many traits they agreed with each other on, and what traits in specific were agreed on. A Python script was also made to find the average, standard deviation, and standard error of the amount of traits each system agreed on. I accept the error in using generative AI to create programs despite my testing to ensure all scripts generated worked as intended. Any programmer who wants to validate my data can use the raw data provided in my citations.
Initially, I did not take information for any Earthling donors, such as Lemurians, Atlanteans, or Agarthans (Inner Earth), due to their lack of extraterrestrial origin. In making the list of donor species below, I excluded donors that were referenced by only one source. These species are:
Analysis of common traits produced the following additional starseed traits, based on how commonly they showed up across all twenty-six donor species catalogued. The average number of donor species sharing one common trait was 5, with a standard deviation of 3. Considering how common many of these traits ended up being, I fail to see why they ought to have been mentioned at all as being traits of particular donor species rather than as starseeds as a whole.
The following list has traits with at least the average plus one standard deviation (8) of species with that trait, underlined if appearing in Steiger’s original starseed trait listing. All traits are considered modern starseed traits as listed in “Constellations in Modernity” with exception to stubbornness.
Andromedans had 30 common traits (the most of all species) and were significant for 5 of them. These included: a preference for freedom (6), adventurousness (6), introversion (3), being teachers (3), and creativity (3). They were further associated with commitment issues (2), issues with self-confidence and self-love (2), and being laid-back (2).
Arcturans had 21 common traits and were significant for 8 of them. These included: a preference for math, tech, and/or science (5); innovation (4); leadership (4); presence/diagnosis of mental illness or neurodivergence (3); intelligence (3); charisma (2); and stubbornness (2). They were further associated with being good public speakers (3), enjoying attention (2), tendency towards anger (2), and not being connected with their emotions (2).
Draconians had 18 common traits and were significant for 4 of them. These included: leadership (4), focus (3), adaptability (3), and trust issues (3). They were further associated with disrespect towards authority (3); desire for money (3); low body temperatures (2); high stamina (2); ability to read body language (2); and a preference for jobs involving politics, leadership, the military, or construction (2).
Of the five sources that mentioned Draconians, four mentioned a difference between “light” Draconians and “dark” Draconians. Dark Draconians are often called Reptilians, while the term “Draconian” is reserved for “light” Draconians.
Lyrans had 22 common traits and were significant for 5 of them. These included: preference for the occult (4), preference for traveling (4), independence (4), wisdom (2), and stubbornness (2). They were further associated with a connection to cats (4), being grounded (2), enjoying indulgences (3), fire (3), having a catlike appearance (2), a preference for the unconventional (2), athleticism (2), and a preference for change (2).
Orionians had 23 common traits and were significant for 6 of them. These included: being analytical (6), a preference for knowledge (5), intelligence (4), sense of humour (4), introversion (3), and black and white thinking (3). They were further associated with a need to learn how to understand feelings (3), a desire to learn (2), being drawn to the Orion constellation (2), task orientation (2), entrepreneurialism (2), Earth signs (2), a desire to lead and inspire (2), being self-controlled (2), discomfort with emotions (2), thinking more than feeling (2), and being opinionated (2).
Pleiadeans had 20 common traits and were significant for 11 of them. These included: sensitivity (7), connection to healing (5), neurodivergence (4), kindness (4), intuition (4), empathy (4), feeling as though you have a purpose in life (4), the presence or diagnosis of mental illness (4), a preference for nature (3), a preference for space (3), humanitarianism (3), and perfectionism (2). They were further associated with being loving (6), issues with self-esteem and confidence (5), people-pleasing (5), family orientation (4), femininity (4), soft-spokenness (3), a need for peace (2), Norse or Northern European heritage (3), defined facial features (2), politeness (2), and an understanding of binaries (2).
Polarians had 18 common traits and were not significant for any of them. They were further associated with a preference for stability (3), being drawn to Polaris (3), a preference for mediations (2), memories/dreams of Lemuria (2), androgyny (2), a preference for teamwork (2), being hard working (2), and being in tune with the Earth (2).
Sirians had 26 common traits and were significant for 10 of them. These included: being dreamers (8), interest in ancient civilisations (5), preference for water (5), loyalty (5), sense of humour (4), intelligence (3), focus (3), creativity (3), interest in science fiction and/or fantasy (2), and stubbornness (2). They were further associated with difficulties expressing feelings (6), simple living (4), being hard to anger (4), being drawn to Sirius (3), task orientation (2), and future orientation (2).
Up to two sources mentioned differing traits for starseeds from Sirius A, B, and C. They were consolidated due to a lack of broader specificity.
Hathors had 11 common traits and were significant for 2 of them, which are passion (3) and spirituality (3). They were further associated with polyamory (3), the goddess Hathor (3), connection to the universe (2), being tall (2), being sensual (2), flightiness (2), being loving (2), and being drawn to Venus (2).
Only one source (The Balanced Blonde) mentioned Venusians without connecting them to Hathor.
Blue Avians had 10 common traits and were not significant for any of them. They were associated with being visionaries (2).
Blue Rays had 14 common traits and were not significant for any of them. They were associated with being calm (2).
Hadarians (Beta Centurians) had 9 common traits and were not significant for any of them. They were associated with unconditional love (4).
Maldekans had 13 common traits and were significant only for a preference for challenges (2). Maldek is believed to have existed between Mars and Jupiter, and its destruction made the asteroid belt (3).
Martians were not significant for their single common trait. Martians seem to just be interested in Mars (2) and wanting to advance humanity (2)
Mintakans had 18 common traits and were significant only for a preference for water (5). Mintaka is a star in the Orion constellation (2).
Vegans had 17 common traits and were not significant for any of them. They had no other unique traits.
I mentioned AI generation and content theft above. Having been in New Age spaces for most of my life, this is a common occurrence. Knowing this, I have used the data analysed through my Python script to construct the graph below in order to display similarities between sources, listed vertically by publication date. From this data, I took the average, standard deviation, and standard error of traits shared between all numbers of citation groups. I repeated this when I removed outliers. I am rounding up the data; since no standard error could be rounded up, I am leaving it out.
Sources agreed on an average of 4 traits, with a standard deviation of 5 (outliers excluded) to 7 (outliers included). I am choosing the latter number to add to the average, making my cutoff for significance 11 traits.
Solid lines are accompanied with the amount of agreed on traits between pairs of citations that are at least two standard deviations from the average without accounting for outliers (12 traits). Two standard deviations were chosen due to concerns over chart clarity. Solid red lines show outliers within the data (over eight standard deviations from the average not counting outliers; 51 traits) and solid grey lines show connections below the average. Dashed lines show direct citation - the later source directly mentions the earlier source. Dotted lines are speculative sources - exclusively sources that connect Venusians to the Egyptian goddess Hathor. The Steigers often mentioned Venus when they were interviewing Star People, but never once connected them to Hathor. This connection is likely due to the 1996 book The Hathor Material by Tom Kenyon and Virginia Essene, which does connect Hathor to Venusians.1 I did not read The Hathor Material for this essay, but it is the earliest source I can find that makes this connection, and I feel confident that these later sources have some connection to it. I wanted to show the relationship between all sources if at all possible, which means each white node (sources part of my dataset) needed at least one input or output - both if possible. Grey nodes represent sources I did not take data on, but were cited by other sources.
Psychic Blaze (PB), Typically Topical (TT), and Victoria Margaux (VM) form an outlier triad between themselves, agreeing on more traits than any other pair of sources. The other highest agreements between sources are between Typically Topical and both Inspiration Divination (ID) and Asking Angels (AA), with Biblioteca Pleaydes (BP) agreeing slightly less than the others. Crystals and Reiki (CR) and The Balanced Blonde (BB) agree with Typically Topical about the same amount. Inspiration Divination and Crystals and Reiki agree with Victorian Margaux about the same amount as well, which directly cites Moon Omen’s (MO) article on starseeds.
Typically Topical is a commonly cited source, which I speculate to be because of it being a popular metaphysics site. To examine this, I used SEMRush to collect traffic information from Typically Topical, along with Biblioteca Pleyades, Asking Angels, Inspiration Divination, Rebecca Campbell, The Balanced Blonde, and Moon Omens. Dates prioritised were the publication of each site’s first starseed article, along with any peaks and valleys afterwards. I am aware that SEO sites guess the amount of traffic based on metrics they can publicly analyse rather than the raw data of people visiting a site. I do not think this affects my interpretation of this data, as I am using the same SEO analyser for all sites (whatever mistakes SEMRush makes in representing traffic will be consistent across all sites), and I am only interested in an estimate of traffic rather than the raw data, since that is not public nor free information.
Biblioteca Pleyades, Totally Topical, and Moon Omens are highlighted due to their high levels of traffic compared to other sites. Removing Biblioteca Pleyades’ insane peak of over 1 million visitors in January 2017 modifies the chart like so:
Both Typically Topical and Moon Omens had high levels of traffic after publishing their starseed articles, with Typically Topical maintaining a much higher level of traffic than any other site. I am confident in saying that Typically Topical’s popularity relative to other sites is why it often agrees with them on starseed traits: people are coming to it for information for their own articles.
Lightworkers and aura (indigo/crystal/rainbow/etc.) children are often lumped in with starseeds. The distinction is vague and often blurred. I repeated what I did for the true donor species and added that information to the same spreadsheet under “Other Reincarnates”.
Of the four sources above that mention lightworkers, most of them call them types of starseeds. Rebecca Campbell, the one dissenter, doesn’t explicitly say that lightworkers aren’t starseeds, instead implying a distinction based on the starseed’s feeling of homesickness which a lightworker would lack.1 They are unified in being on Earth to uplift humanity into a higher state of being.2 Along with starseeds, they are also intuitive (2) and creative (2), but are also noted to be strong manifestors (2), rebellious (2), and wants to be there for others (2).
Aura children describe children born from the 1950s to the 2000s. Indigo children were born from 1950-1980, crystal children from 1980-1990 or 2000, and rainbow children after 2000.3 They are also described by all four sources that mention them as starseeds - they come from all over the universe4 and have the cosmic duty to break down old systems and usher in the new.5 Like starseeds, aura children are all intuitives (3, read filled columns on spreadsheet) connected to animals (3) and nature (3), but diverge in some aspects.
Indigo children are the ones most associated with the destruction of old systems (2, read number of citations), intelligent (2) revolutionaries (2) with strong wills (2). Crystal children are creative (2) healers (2). And rainbow children are psychic (2), fearless (2), energetic (2) new souls (2) that love vibrant colours (2) and have high vibrations (2).
The true history of starseeds began before Leary coined the term, and before the Steigers described them. Their true genesis came with Theosophy, the progenitor and spiritual undercurrent of the New Age movement.1 Theosophy, the mother of the New Age, began sometime in the 1870s, headed by medium Helena Blavatsky. Blavatsky claimed that evolution was a spiritual process guided by “the Masters” - both Earthling and extraterrestrial.2 She also put forth what would be called by Neo-Theosophists to be the “Akashic Record”, a metaphysical location that records all that has been, is, and will be, and which, from my experience, is commonly believe to exist within those in the New Age movement. However, the most pertinent aspect of Theosophy to this section was that of the root race - races of humans that rise and fall in a cycle of both physical and spiritual evolution, with the lower root races being destined to die out. These root races include fantastical civilisations like Lemuria and Atlantis, but also Aryans, the fifth and current root race.2
Blavatsky made some attempt to disconnect spiritual Aryans from racial Aryans, but along with her belief that the non-Aryan races (including Jews and Arabs) were “semi-animal creatures”, it was inevitable that white supremacists would incorporate root races into their ideologies. These included the Arisophist and völkisch movements in Germany that fed into Nazi ideology, twinning whiteness with spiritual supremacy.2 The Nazis further developed this idea into a belief that Aryans were not just distinct from other races, but came from a mythical land called Hyperborea, somewhere north of Europe.3
The creation of explicitly white supremacist Theosophical groups did not purge such beliefs from Theosophy itself. Instead, Theosophists in the 1950s went cosmic with their supremacy. George Adamski, the first known UFO contactee who had met an alien with Nordic characteristics, was a Theosophist, and along with George Williamson, started an organisation called Soulcraft.4 Soulcraft shifted Blavatsky’s often Indian Masters into aliens. Williamson was also joined by William Pelley - America’s Hilter - who was in open support of Nazism and who railed against “global Jewry”. Pelley also believed that humans were created by an extraterrestrial alien-ape hybridisation project that he called “celestial eugenics”. However, the aliens bred too indiscriminately, leading to all other human races, necessitating the purging of these lesser races in “spiritual eugenics” to prepare Earth for the coming Age of Aquarius - the New Age. Williamson agreed with Pelley, but added that Earth was inhabited by “serpent people” from the constellation Orion - physically weak, intellectually strong, materialistic, and parasitic. If the connection wasn’t obvious, he also believed that all the governments were controlled by “international bankers”. Soulcraft would die, but it would inspire Guy Ballart’s I AM Movement, after he witnessed blue-eyed, blond-haired aliens on Mount Shasta in California. From this proceeded the popularisation of Nordic aliens in alien encounters.3
This Aryanic antisemitism continued into the 1990s with Doris Ekker, who claimed that she was in contact with a Pleiadean. In prior sections, I have shown the connection between Pleiadeans and Nordic physical features, and in practice, Nordics and Pleiadeans are often interchangeable terms. Ekker’s Pleiadian was a raging antisemite that, between screeds against Jewish people, would twice send her the entire text of the Protocols of the Elders of Zion, a fabricated, allegedly Jewish-written book outlining the plans for Jewish world domination.3 Conspiracist author David Icke, while promoting the belief that blood-sucking, child-sacrificing, shape-shifting reptilian aliens have infiltrated the government; also endorsed the Protocols as a genuine text and courted Holocaust denialism.4
Despite attempts to rehabilitate reptilian aliens in modernity, Ickean beliefs of reptilian aliens controlling the government are common within the New Age movement, and thus, common to starseeds. The reptilians (Illuminati, Draconians, Annunaki, etc.) are believed to be keeping humanity in a Matrix-like reality, often referred to as the third-dimensional (3D) matrix.5 Many starseeds believe themselves to have incarnated on Earth specifically to help break out of the 3D matrix as part of Ascension, which will bring Earth into the new, fifth-dimensional (5D) age.6 That New Age, when Ascension has been achieved, is inherently millenarian despite a seeming disconnect with Christianity - it is a spiritual transformation.7 Reptilians, and all forces allied with them, are actively preventing Ascension from occurring.8
Ascension isn’t the only term used to describe this coming utopia. The “Great Awakening” has also been used to denote Ascension by influencers such as Dr. Christiane Northrup - but this term does not exist in a New Age vacuum. It, along with the other Matrix-inspired term “the red pill”, are common terms in far-right conspiracy circles to describe a recognition of the real truth, rather than the lies everyone else believes.9 There is so much crossover between the New Age and conspiracism that a term was coined for it: conspirituality, or the dual belief in a secret group controlling humanity and that humanity will undergo a shift in spiritual consciousness.10
Matthew Remski, host of the Conspirituality podcast and site, has called Northup a “conspirituality aggregator” who promotes anti-vax conspiracism along with QAnon, but she is hardly the only one crossing over the New Age (including belief in starseeds) with QAnon.11 Clairvoyant Louise Jones (69.6k YouTube subscribers), channeler Lori Ladd (186k YouTube), channeler Magenta Pixie (145k YouTube subscribers), and Ancient Aliens star and New Age novelist David Wilcock have all, in some form, promoted QAnon.12
QAnon doesn’t stand without Donald Trump. People who believe in starseeds see Trump, at worst, as a spiritual paradigm shift and evidence of the shadow government.13 At best, Trump is a lightworker - a starseed himself.14 Even the Great Awakening conspiracy-of-everything map I’ve seen passed around directly mentions starseeds, lightworkers, and indigo children, along with multidimensional beings, Reptilians, Pleiadieans, Blue Avians, Maldek, and the 5D Earth.15 But what really exposes the third-dimensional rot of starseeds is the QAnon shaman himself, Jacob Chansley. Chansley, most notable for dressing up in a Native American headdress, American flag warpaint, animal furs, and rune tattoos while participating in the January 6th US capitol insurrection, is a self-professed starseed. His now-deleted YouTube channel, Starseed Academy, promoted itself as a way to help people ascend, along with promoting Trump’s positive influence on Ascension via fighting the reptilian influence in the US government. He believed his insurrectionism to be part of an “evolution in consciousness” that affected the “quantum realm”.16
He is hardly alone in connecting starseed belief with right-wing violence. Another insurrectionist, Yvonne St. Cyr, one of the first to break the police barricade at the capitol, along with QAnon beliefs, has called herself both a starseed and lightworker. Romana Didulo, self-professed Arcturian starseed and extraterrestrially-bestowed Queen of Canada, calls for the execution of those who oppose her, and incites her followers into violence and disruption of law enforcement.17 These beliefs do cause violence. The belief that you are always under threat by the reptilian, “liberal elite” outgroup, who is not only preventing spiritual evolution, but preys on children, pressures people into using their reincarnated souls to spread not love and light, but hate and darkness.18
From my own personal experiences, it is hard to run into a starseed without some right-wing belief. I have seen them support genocide and fight me when I call them out on it. I have seen Pleiadian starseeds (the ones most associated with love, kindness, and a need for peace) support Trump. Pleiadians - the light-skinned, blue-eyed, blonde-haired Nordic aliens - are the most popular donor species by far, both in what I’ve seen and in how they are mentioned by all nine sites I chose to source from. You can’t take one step into the realm of love and light without being bombarded with the Lyra-Orion wars, a Star Wars-esque interstellar war (and mind you, Star Wars is a documentary to New Agers in this regard) that worldbuilds the reason why reptilians are not to be trusted - and why hating reptilians is disconnected from hating Jews.
All religions and spiritualities have nutjobs. There are progressive Christians, Muslims, Jews, Buddhists, Hindus, and atheists; just as there are conservative, conspiratorial, and extremist ones. Just to pull an example I’m familiar with: there are both conservative and progressive Satanists. The progressive Satanists are more aligned with The Satanic Temple and take Satan/Lucifer as a symbol of revolution against oppression. The conservative Satanists are more aligned with the Church of Satan, and involve eugenics and traditionalism in their philosophy. And that’s just atheistic Satanists! Theistic Satanists range from being chill to actual Nazis.
I say this to establish that there might be progressive starseeds buried somewhere in the movement. The New Age movement used to be associated with left-leaning hippies. Either the hippies were more regressive than people think, or somewhere along the way the movement has been co-opted. Maybe Theosophy became more influential than organic foods, animal rights, and smoking weed. Who knows? But if they do exist, where are they? I’ve studied the New Age movement since I was a child. You’d think in the decade or so since, I’d find starseeds that champion a love that includes everyone, and a light that doesn’t mean white. I’m sure they exist, but they’re a rare species - and divergent from the Trump-supporting, conspiracy-promoting zeitgeist.
I remember being young, not more than six or seven, and stumbling on the very first video that told me that aliens were real and that my disconnect with my peers was because I was one of them. What lonely child doesn’t want to be told they’re special? Even if I knew it was silly, part of me wanted to believe. My problems could become my strengths if only I could take that leap of faith, if I let that enchantment override my Orionian skepticism. What strong magic it was! Aliens had to be more real than gods, no? When I looked up at the stars, I yearned for an extraterrestrial connection - for the mothership to take me to a home where I was understood.
I’d reckon this describes many starseeds. Feeling different from your peers is required, and many starseed donor species mention neurodivergence, mental illness, and trauma in their reincarnate as more traits that point to an astral origin. This isn’t a modern invention - even the Steigers mentioned traumatic childhood events. Ergo, starseed belief can be as much an earnest healing by spirituality as it is spiritual bypassing - ignoring your problems through spirituality. Your child doesn’t need accommodations, they’re a starseed! You weren’t bullied for being autistic, you were bullied because you were a literal alien! Your childhood trauma wasn’t from a bad roll of cosmic dice, it was a sign of you being special!
And if you’re special, and these other people like you are special, does that not mean the people who hurt you aren’t? That they are working against you and your mission - the mission you know you have, because everyone like you has a mission - and thus must be worked against? Who let you get bullied in the first place? Who educates your child so poorly? That’s who you should work against. Love and light them on fire.